Memorial service today We were bussssy yesterday.  I am sure that each of us worked as much as three people each.  We washed and chopped, cooked, cleaned, packed…just about any and everything.  The fridges are completely packed and the freezer is emptying pretty quickly.  I didn’t realize how much bread, veggies, soap, laundry detergent, paper […]

Planning is progressing Yesterday was a day of doing, making phone calls, and delegating.  Karran, Bena and Mom went to buy the groceries for the dinner after Thursday’s memorial service and with good fortune, they got everything they needed.  Sophie and Darwin went to Mom’s house to meet the movers so that’s now complete.  Robin washed […]

Planning and organizing Yesterday I had my visit with the pandit  I have to say that I went there expecting the worst and what I got instead was a very humble pandit who was quite willing to listen and provide the necessary guidance.  On Friday night before Karran went home, he talked to me about […]

Obit: Dood Bayney

February 2, 1931-April 19, 2011 It is with deep sadness that we announce the passing of Doodhraj Bayney on Thursday, April 19, 2011at the Grace Hospice, with his family at his side. Dood will be lovingly remembered by his wife Sharie of 59 years and his children Sandra (Robin), Sabena (Zaman), Karran (Kelsey) and Sophia […]

I now know what Dad meant… when he said I would know what to do for his funeral service.  I have been getting lots of advice from people about how the service is to be done, which day, what time – and all of it conflicting.  I know what I am about to say is not […]

Arrangements made Last night when I came home at 10:30, I thought I was going to go to bed immediately but instead I blogged and looked at pictures of dad.  I was smiling when I looked at them. I finally went to bed at 1am and thought that after being up for almost 42 hours […]

11:55pm: Arrangements to be finalized As of right now, no arrangements have been finalized.  As soon as I have that confirmed, I will post it on the blog.  In the meantime, I’ve been thinking of doing the CancerCare Challenge for Life 20 kilometre walk on June 11, 2011. Well I came home tonight and registered […]

8:30pm – he did it his way I went home at 5pm intending to stay there till 8 or 9pm but and put some spicy fries to bake while I had a shower so we could have roasted chicken for dinner. By the time I got dressed again, I packed my dinner and some paneer […]

Update: 2:50pm It’s now mid afternoon and things are progressing. Bena, Sophie, Kelsey and Mom left about 1:00pm as there is still stuff to be packed at her home. Karran and I are still here. Dad’s skin is starting to change colour – more purple/red. His breathing is more laboured and it sounds very congested. […]

Dad – taken a downturn Last night the hospice called at 12:10am and said that Dad has taken a turn for the worse. He had a good day and had his usual evening. He went to bed about 7pm but by 10:30pm, he called Janine to say that he was having difficulty breathing. She gave […]